Online Dating Is Overrated, And Scammy!

I don’t like online dating, but . . .

Nowadays, there is no longer any need for men to go through the embarrassment and pain that comes with hanging out at bars and night clubs hoping to pick up women. If you hate buying expensive drinks for women, which does not actually guarantee anything, or if you hate dancing, then you will love what online seduction has to offer.

But the main reasons why I really don’t like online dating are because of the proliferation of scams and my being uncomfortable with anything other than a face to face meeting.  Technology cannot give you the ‘feel’ that an initial face-to-face date will.

Of course there are other ways to meet women, like having a hobby but if we are unsuccessful using face-to-face interactions or if we don’t have time for probing personal dates, then perhaps we can (reluctantly) consider turning to dating websites.  Online dating websites provide easy, fast and effective ways for you to get dates with gorgeous women without even having to leave the comforts of your own home. What man would not be interested in fast and easy results?

One thing you may have to learn is how to communicate with women through instant messages and emails. Once you learn, however, you can use technology to effortlessly communicate and build rapport with women who interest you. Here are several tips which can help you succeed with women through the World Wide Web:

  1. Be Patient.  Nothing will make you look more creepy and more needy than flooding the woman that you are interested in with a stream of messages before she even gets the chance to reply to you. So, try to be patient and don’t freak out if she fails to reply sometimes, either.
  2. Check Your Spelling.  Online dating is one of the very few cases where you actually have to pay attention to the way that you type things online. Although it isn’t a necessity, you will score brownie points if you communicate with women with flawless punctuation, spelling and grammar online at all times.
  3. Think Things Through.  Before you send anything to a woman online, make sure you think things through first. Try to sound clever and witty, but not fresh. Also, if you think you are comfortable enough with each other, tease her every now and then.  If the woman you are hitting on is extremely hot, then you should consider the fact that other men are busting their balls trying to get her attention too. If you’d like to give yourself an edge, and I am sure you do, here is a blog that is recommended highly by many. By showing her that you are a fun guy, she will be more inclined to reply to your messages faster.
  4. Keep Things Short.  Face it: women won’t spend more than 10 minutes reading a message online nor will she wait for you if it takes you that long to reply to her instant message, either. So, keep things short. Online dating is meant to be fun, so use as few words and sentences as possible to keep her interested.
  5. Focus on her.  In general, people love talking about themselves, especially women. So, ask as many questions as possible and keep the focus on her. Contrary to popular belief, there is no need to try and impress a woman on the Internet. Just get to know her better by asking different questions about her interests and you can win her over in no time.
  6. Proceed with caution.  Be careful of the legal implications of whatever you wish to post – never post inappropriate messages and images.  Be wary of scams and do not readily give out personal details before checking out the website and its reputation.  Be aware that, just as you have the contact details of hundreds of women, the one you are interested in also has your image and details along with that of hundreds of other men to choose from; there is no guarantee that you will even be noticed.

Online dating indeed has become very popular these days, especially with the advent of smartphones which allows seamless connection through the internet. If there’s any advantage in online dating, I think it’s the fact that you can be yourself anonymously – at least until you are comfortable enough for an eventual meet-up. You also get an initial chemistry test without having to spend time together.

To add more icing to the cake, I have friend who has actually found true love through online dating. Sounds sweet? Tell me.

For more wise words from Enrique, keep visiting this blog, call me at at 347 622 8310.  I also answer questions sent to enrique@enriquequinterodesign.com

Posted on 22nd May 2013 in Enrique's Dating Advice  •  Comments are off for this post

Pop Quiz: Would You Date a Friend’s Ex? Can You Date a Friend’s Ex?

Hello people.  I am Enrique Quintero and I say there is nothing harder on the emotion than having to choose between a good friend and the one you love.  But what if it can’t be helped?

“Mates before dates” can be as simple as going for boys’ night out over a dinner date with your girl. But, it becomes a very complicated, very messy situation when it comes to whether or not it is okay to date your friend’s ex.

Last week I blogged about hobbies that would let you meet women. But what if, no matter what you do, you find your friend’s ex really attractive?

Really, what does the bro code say about going out with your buddy’s former fling? When is it okay to date a friend’s ex? Or is it ever okay?

The Big Issue

The biggest issue that comes with dating someone your close friend has dated is the question of loyalty. You cannot stop your mate from suspecting that you have been eyeing his girl even while they were still together. And you can’t really blame him if he wonders if you actually made advances to her behind his back. After all, he will never know.

And this is a fact for both male and female relationships.  We may argue, ‘no one owns anybody and we are free to date and love whoever we damn well please’. But then again, would you seriously say that to someone you call ‘brother from another mother’ in the face?

If you decide to go for it, you might find these rules handy.

The Factors to Consider

If you are thinking about pursuing a girl who’s dated your friend, there might be questions you need to ask yourself and factors you have to consider before making a move.

  1. Time : Time here refers to both how long your friend and his ex were together, and how long ago it was since they’ve broken up. If it was a long, serious relationship – say, something that started since they were in High School, I don’t think that’s something you want to get involved in. But then again, if they have broken up two years ago, then it may be okay.

2. Intention:  Why do you want to pursue the girl? Why would the girl want to date you? Are you looking at scoring off in an unspoken competition with your friend? Is she using you as a rebound, and the perfect accessory to have her revenge on your friend?  You are in for bad times unless it is true love that drives you.

3. Their current situation: Bad breakups take a really long time to get over from. If it wasn’t a mutual situation, and your friend was dumped, think again about taking his ex out. He will either

a) think you’re the cause of the breakup and you are a traitor or

b) she was using him the whole time to get you. Boys can be overly dramatic too you know. And besides, you really wouldn’t want to be the poor rebound guy.

But if they both have fully moved on from each other, and they can actually be civil, then maybe you can get your hopes up a teeny bit.

4. Timing:  In any situation, timing is everything: when to pursue the girl, when to tell your friend, when to take her to your common social circle – the slightest mistimed move could jeopardize both your friendship with your buddy and your blooming relationship with the lady in question.

The Bottom Line

The most important question, perhaps, that you should ask when thinking about pursuing a buddy’s former romance is this: will it be worth all the trouble and the risk of losing a friend?  Unless you want to be the douche bag and the jerk in your social circle, better ask that question before dialing her number.

Read this Seduction FAQ blog post now if you think you’re better off attracting other women.

So you might ask: what’s my take on this? If I were faced with such a situation, I would stay away from it UNLESS I really really, really think I want a serious relationship with her.

Just my two cents.

I’d love to hear what you think about this blog article.  You can post your comments directly on this blog or send them to enrique@enriquequinterodesign.com You can also reach me at phone number 347 622 8310.

Posted on 14th May 2013 in Enrique's Dating Advice  •  Comments are off for this post

Enrique’s Picks: Hobbies That Will Let You Meet Women

Holler, buddies! I’ve previously blogged about ating independent women. The question now is where to find them.

Guys, I have news for you: bars aren’t the only places to meet great women! Girls have found some new places to frequent and you might be the last person to know.

Sticking with the usual bars and clubs will leave you with the exact same type of women. You may be missing on the chance to find someone better; one who does not happen to like neon lights and overflowing margaritas.

Oh, and guys, did I happen to tell you that men with unusual (no, not creepy) interests or those who are into improving themselves constantly are sexy? Yes, they are very attractive. At least, that’s what my female friends tell me. And what’s even more attractive is if that man happens to like the same things women are into.

While it is wise to learn the right Pickup techniques, it is equally wise to pick them up from the right places, lest you end up wasting your time with the wrong women.

So here’s a list of interesting hobbies that you can try spending some time on for a chance to meet girls (without looking like a neurotic drunk guy at the end of the night):

Join Cooking Classes:  With Gordon Ramsay’s rise to TV stardom, and all the other cooking shows and contests, the desire to learn how to cook better also rose to a record high. Okay, I don’t have a record but a lot of women have gotten the desire to learn to cook like a pro from watching DC Cupcakes and Masterchef; and thus the rise in enrollees in your local cooking school. This is one place where you’d be literally surrounded by women. And to be among the few home cooking men to join the culinary class, is sure to get you special treatment. (Oh, yes, a man who is good with cooking is sexy!)

Run for Love?  Yes, running has become the ‘in’ fitness thing of today. I don’t know what started the trend but more people are into running. And you know what that means: girls are into it too! It’s cheap, it’s fresh, and hey it’s healthy for you! You don’t even have to be a member of some group! Just make sure you stock up on some heavy duty deo and run early – that’s when all other runners come out.

Volunteer for Charity Work:  Girls can hardly resist kind-hearted men. Sparing a few hours of your time doing charity work to help with problem children, special children, soup kitchens, animal shelters, or whatever strikes your fancy, will allow you to meet equally kind-hearted ladies.’

Join A Poetry Club:  There’s almost always one artist café in every place. If you’re into Shakespeare and a fan of the written art, you’re likely to meet girls with the same interest in these places. Watch out for and join open mic and poetry reading nights. You’ll get both your literary fix and be surrounded by sexy, smart women. Oh and the coffee and the cookies are free!

Take Up Yoga:  Not so much for the yoga pants but I’m sure you’ll get your fix of that too, but joining a yoga class is (1) NOT GAY LIKE ALL YOUR FRIENDS SAY, (2) very healthy for your mind, soul and body, and (3) blessed with an abundance of girls. And the post-yoga aura is always warm and fresh so that no girl is ever grumpy after a yoga class. And guess what, yoga is actually good for the heart (literally and figuratively!).

It is such a bonus to find a hobby that you would like, that the presence of girls is just an added inspiration. Look for something you’ve been really dying to learn and start from there. Good luck!

Please tell us what you think of this article and of my blog in general.  I will even answer questions by phone (3476228310) or email (enrique@enriquequinterodesign.com). Thanks for the visit!

Posted on 10th May 2013 in Enrique's Dating Advice  •  Comments are off for this post

The Alpha Female: Why Dating Independent Women is Sexy

You’ve seen them in films—those women who exude confidence, who have a strong-willed personality, who can pay for their own clothes and bills, and those who love life in general—yes, I’m talking about the independent woman.

The independent woman is coming out of her shell as time goes by, and I can’t help but admire them because of their passion and perseverance. These women aren’t the kind who’d throw a fit when they don’t get their things their way, but instead keep on finding ways to improve their situation and work things out. They are your everyday warriors—be it in the office, at home, or both—and they still manage to make themselves look good while they’re at it.

Some time in May I was able to stumble upon a DTC Water to Wine live event that had Michael D’Amari promoting his book: “Woman Hold the Power”. This guy had a lot of interesting things to say, so I immediately searched YouTube for more of his videos. Here’s one in which D’Amari is explaining why men get intimidated by independent women. I say that it’s making a lot of sense, as seen from a man and a woman’s perspective:

Quite refreshing, isn’t it? But no matter what is being said, it all boils down to this– having an independent woman on your side means your relationship is more likely to grow more every day—and here’s why.

They know what they want. What sets the independent woman from the rest is that they truly know what they want AND know how to get it on their own. In dating, this is always good, because there’s no need for you to decipher what she wants from you. She will most likely tell it to you in a very direct but tactful way, so don’t act surprised if she will give you pointers on how to do it right the next time. Trust me—it’s all for the better.

They won’t give up that easily. Most independent women are successful in their own ways. They have, probably exerted a little more effort in order for them to reach that top position in that reputable company. In short, they are go-getters—they don’t simply back down. This rings true in romance and relationships, too.

They will help you reach your goals. These women are the best motivators. Chances are, they will be attracted to you because you have that same independent vibe they also possess, because as they say—like attracts like. She will help you persevere to reach your goals, those little wants that you’ve wanted to do for the past couple of years now. She’s probably going to help you cross out some items off your bucket list. Win-win.

Times are indeed changing as we become surrounded by beautiful and independent women. Don’t get intimidated, nor see it as a challenge. In fact, dating strong and independent women should be treated as a blessing—there’s no room for boredom, only growth, and more passion.

There’s nothing more special than seducing the strong and sophisticated woman. Read this (recommended) if you want to know how to practise modern seduction techniques that really work to make her go home with you!

Wise words by Enrique!

Posted on 12th April 2013 in Enrique's Dating Advice, Miscellaneous  •  Comments are off for this post

So You’re Poor? Tough Luck Then!

Hello there, fellow romantics. I have something interesting for you to read today. Why? Because this topic is universal and very real– it’s all about being broke. Or, to sugarcoat it ever so lightly– this post is about keeping love alive despite being “financially challenged.”

Hustling? Not this time

You know how it is when you’re broke. You also know how women are usually difficult to please. Despite this, there are still ways to capture a woman’s heart, which even we who are broke can use. If you are a financially challenged guy wondering  how to meet women and make them like you quickly, follow these simple tips:

Don’t worry too much, to most women, money is not everything!  If you think that the easiest way to please a woman is to flaunt your wealth, then you are badly mistaken.  Although it helps to have a lot of money, your riches are just tiny dots in a woman’s universe. Women are generally more attracted to certain desirable traits such as confidence, kindness, sincerity, and loyalty. The old song that says “can’t buy me love” conveys this truth perfectly.

Be creative to avoid the expensive!   If you’re thinking of having dinner together, why not invite her for a dinner you have cooked for her at home?  She is sure to appreciate that more than dinner expensive restaurant, because it involves personal effort.  Pull out all the stops in decorating the dinner table – use your best table cloths, silverware and make sure there are candles and a chilled bottle of wine.  That should set you back just a fifth of what it would cost at a restaurant!

Find ways to show how thoughtful you are!   There is nothing more thoughtful than calling her in the morning and greeting her to let her know that you’ve missed her – terribly in fact. Be the consummate gentleman when with her; open doors, pull out seats and be very attentive to her every need.

Always have a plan B! To avoid disappointing your date, you need to be prepared with alternatives to your original plan to ensure the day is not wasted if something suddenly changes.  If you’re going to a movie, prepare a backup activity should there be a hitch; for example you can watch movies at home or play board and card games.

Flowers and chocolates need not break the bank.   Sure, ladies like both flowers and chocolates, but these don’t have to cost you an arm and a leg.  She’ll appreciate flowers you personally picked from the garden as much, if not more, than a store bought bouquet.  And you need not give her a big box of chocolates to make her happy.  Giving her just a bar of chocolate (just make sure it is not of the cheap variety) will give her as much joy – remember that it is the thought that counts!

Write (don’t print) love letters!  Technology has almost erased the need for manual, sometimes called cursive, writing.  But a handwritten love letter has more impact to a girl than the most expensive greeting card because they appreciate the personal effort involved.

Keeping your relationship alive does not always require a lot of money; in most cases, all it needs is loads of effort on your part to make it work!

Hope you find this post helpful.  For comments, suggestions, and questions you may contact me at enrique@enriquequinterodesign.com or at phone number 347 622 8310.

Posted on 5th April 2013 in Uncategorized  •  Comments are off for this post

Who Says You Can’t Go Home? A Song By Bon Jovi

First, enjoy this performance by the eternal band of lovebirds, Emperor!

Although back in the day it might have been surprising to see a guy and a girl going home together after meeting at a bar or a club, things are a bit different now. In fact, people now put a lot of effort into dressing up and looking good when they go out, hoping to connect with someone special.

If you think learning to get a girl to go home with you is difficult, you are in for a big surprise!  Sometimes all you need to show is enough confidence plus a bit of sincerity.  You also need to make your move the minute you find a girl you are interested in, because, chances are, if you hesitate, other guys may get her attention before you do.  Sometimes, you have to know [how to be a flirt]!

Remember that you are likely to find a lot of competition for the most attractive ones.  You will have better chances for success if you have come prepared.  Dress appropriately; get your shoes shined, and your hair trimmed.  And don’t forget to make sure you smell nice – your scent (or stink) can make or break your night. Learn the trade– go to a dating seminar if you have to. But in the meantime, read on for some tips on how to get a girl to go home with you.

Plan the perfect first impression.

Since you only have one chance to actually make a good first impression so you better get it right.  Look at her and decide, based on her attire and general appearance, what line would work best.

I cannot over-emphasize the need for you to look and smell clean.  In addition, to elicit a truly positive impression, you must be the consummate gentleman showering all of your attention on her; straying eyes while talking to her is a big no-no.

Learn effective methods of hypnosis.

Not a lot of guys have the balls to try out methods of hypnosis, but if you want to learn how to get a girl to go home with you, then these methods would be highly effective in that department. In fact, hypnosis is so powerful that, once you master it, you will be able to get any girl of your choice fall for you in less than 15 minutes – believe it.

Find a something you can do together.

Find something you share in common with the girl you are interested in.  If she loves dancing, take her to the dance floor and dance as long as she wants.  Maybe she’s into long conversations; if that is the case you can spend time intently listening to what she has to say.  The idea is to make her feel that you are on the same wavelength, which you can later use to create the beginnings of a deeper bond between you.

I hope this helps you connect with the girl you are attracted to.  Feel free to read the other posts in this blog for more information on the subject of dating and relationships.  If you have any questions I have not answered in my posts, email them to me at enrique@enriquequinterodesign.com You can also reach me at phone number 347 622 8310.


Posted on 3rd April 2013 in Enrique's Dating Advice  •  Comments are off for this post

Quick Thoughts

So a couple of days ago, I went to this dating seminar which I’ve told you about previously here on my blog. It was a sight to see—it’s amazing how a lot of people are as interested in relationships, the art of seduction, and dating itself as much as I am.

It seems like I have a lot to learn still, and the article that I’ve written exactly a week ago is never enough to cover the entire topic of seduction. There are simply a lot of things and factors that will make a woman like you, so it seems—all of which are impossible to cover in a 500-word article. But it’s all a learning process, as they say. It will take baby steps to reach that certain kind of achievement that will always be fulfilling in the end. If there’s one thing that the seminar has made me realise, it would be the thought of sharing goals and dreams with a person you love will always be priceless. It makes the chase always worth it.

Well, I promise to keep you updated and I would stay in touch for as often as I could, so I could share with you all the things that I’ve learned during the New York seminar. The next entries should be exciting—stay tuned and til next time!

Posted on 22nd March 2013 in Miscellaneous  •  Comments are off for this post

Dating Seminars – Going To One!

I am going to attend a dating seminar held here in New York! Relationships always intrigue me, and this is a good opportunity to see what is out there when it comes to dating coaching. Now if you are in New York City, and you’re also into self improvement, dating and seduction coaching then give me a shout at enrique@enriquequinterodesign.com. See you!

Posted on 18th March 2013 in Personal  •  Comments are off for this post

Enrique Says: Speed Matters! Yeah!

Learning how to make a woman like you quickly might seem like a daunting task, but it isn’t impossible. In fact, no matter how many times you have been rejected in the past, there is still hope for you in situations like these. There are actually many different ways to significantly reduce your chances of being rejected by a woman and guarantee that she falls madly in love with you instead. Read on.

I wrote this while I was on a long train to Moscow. So bear it with me while I ramble on about my favorite topic: seduction. :)

Get Up To Speed!

  • Be her prince charming.
Picture of lovely couple I was really lonely until I found my girlfriend. Love you, Selena Chan!

Every woman in the world dreams of being swept off of their feet by their very own prince charming. No matter what your past experiences might have taught you and no matter what women might say to you, they always hope to find their dream man in every man that walks towards them. As such, it really won’t be any different the minute they see you approaching.

Whether you feel like prince charming or not, you can take full advantage of this female fantasy by being a real gentleman around women at all times. Be brave and charming whenever the situation calls for it, for example, and always walk around with an air of confidence surrounding you. Confidence happens to be one of the most sought-after traits that women look for in men, so you will definitely end up in the right direction if you display a confident aura around them. Even if you don’t feel confident around, acting like you do can convince women otherwise. Try it!

  • Be her confidant.

If you speak a woman’s language, you will succeed in your endeavors. It is as simple as that. In other words, you have to make sure you say exactly what a woman wants to hear when she wants to hear it. If she needs assurance that she is intelligent and pretty, for instance, give her that assurance while looking deeply into her eyes.

If you really want to make her fall in love with you, then try to reach her inner desires, too. Be hypnotic when you talk to her and make sure you listen to everything she says, as well. This might sound like a lot of work, but you can really learn a lot about a woman just by listening to everything that she has to say. Dr Robert Leahy (relationships expert) has got this to say at the Huffington Post.

  • Be her rock.

Face it: women won’t be interested in you unless you promise to be by their side, no matter what happens. So, if you want to lock her in, the best way to do this would be to assure her that she is loved and that you are committed to making her feel safe whenever she needs you. The minute she feels like you might flake out on her, she will drop you like a hot potato. Don’t let that happen. You can be good at dating just by mastering the techniques that you can find online (for example, the SonicSeduction website) – always improve yourself!

So, there you have it! You now know exactly how to make a woman like you quickly. The only thing left for you to do now is to practice these tips on as many different women as possible. Remember: practice makes perfect!

Wise Words By Enrique!

Posted on 15th March 2013 in Enrique's Dating Advice  •  Comments are off for this post