Posts from: October 2013


Enrique Says: The Mythical Woman!

I am Enrique Quintero, a professional blogger on the interesting subject of dating and relationships.  This blog is about some myths men have about women.

Myths, as you know, have no factual basis.  These myths can be entertaining and generally harmless as long as we don’t end up believing them too much.  Some of the most perilous of these are myths about women which some men actually believe to be true!

Men and women may come from the same species and share the same genetic order, but in many aspects, there are more differences between genders than monkeys and men. This is especially apparent in the dating world. What men find substantial, women find very superficial. And what women find emotionally important, men find to be a matter to shrug off one’s shoulders about.

Myths About Women (As Relayed To Me By My Friend Melanie!)

And man, oh man.  No matter how long men have been seeking out women, they still have not figured out everything about her. Well, besides of mastering the tips on approaching women  or making a good first impression. She is as much a stranger to him as she was in the beginning. And, surprisingly, a lot of men still believe these dating myths about women:

Myth No.1: Women say ‘no’ to play hard to get.

No means no; doubt that and you may end up in jail!  A lot of men think that women just say ‘no’ to punish them and to play hard to get. Sure, women, a lot of women love the chase.  But when she says no to something, believe her; she’s very serious about it! A no is a ‘no’ and you can try to persuade her as much as you want but you cannot ignore boundaries just because you think she does not really mean it. When a girl says no it’s as valid, and serious, as a ‘no’ coming from you. And always remember the difference between persuasion and force.

Myth No. 2: Pretty women are dumb and ugly women are brainy.

This is downright stupid!  First off, we need to stop categorizing women as pretty or ugly; beauty comes in different forms, and believing a narrow definition blinds us to true beauty present in all people. Looks do not really define intellectual capacity.  Case in point, Caroline Ahern, a popular UK comedian who passed away recently, was a stunner yet had an IQ of 176.  If you assume a lady is dumb just because she is pretty gifted in the bosom, wears makeup, and likes dressing up in sexy clothing, you may be setting yourself up for a big and embarrassing fail.

Myth No. 3: Women are too emotional.

While it is true that women are a bit more sensitive than we are, that does not automatically make them “too emotional.”  While the “too emotional” tag may hold a bit of truth at certain times of the month, women are generally no more emotional than men. They are just ‘softer’ because it is their nature to recognize that letting feelings out (and letting the tears flow at times) is a healthy way to move on from something upsetting. [1]

Myth No. 4: She does not like sex; at least not as much as you do.

Oh really?!  Blame it on society that women are wired to be discreet about their sexuality, but believe it or not, women are just as into sex as you are. If she’s not showing you, you may not have been creating an environment where she feels safe, confident and comfortable enough to be intimate. [You may be pushing her too hard at it and in turn, it’s making her shy; that, or maybe you’re not pleasing her well enough in bed.

I welcome your comments on this and the other topics on my blog.  If there’s any dating and relationship topic you want to discuss with me you can email me at enrique@enriquequinterodesign.com.  Alternatively, you can also reach me through phone number 347 622 8310.

ADDENDUM: Found something useful here which you should read.

Posted on 17th October 2013 in Understanding Women  •  Comments are off for this post

Enrique’s Sunday Rants Courtesy Of Richard!

Thanks for liking my last blog post, I’ve received a lot of good feedback on that one. Hope you can enjoy this article too – it’s a contribution from my childhood friend Richard. Enjoy!

If you think that you need to be good looking or you need an arsenal of some special moves in order to make a good first impression on women, you’re wrong. Sure, a pretty face can kick things off, but what good does it make if you’re rude, unpleasant and outright un-gentleman?

You also don’t have to be the richest, smartest or the tallest in order to stand out in the crowd. With the right attitude and these simple techniques, you can impress any woman you like whether in a bar, on the street or anywhere else.

Richard’s Method On Impressing Women :)

“Look Your Best”. Good genetics aside, the first thing you need to do to beat the competition is to look your best. And that means all the time. You have to dress up and clean up like you mean business, this how to get a woman like you. It’s been proven that most women love a shaven look though there are some who also adores the rugged appeal of a rough face, but since a good first impression is what you’re after, be on the safe side. Shave those whiskers, and then pick some great clothes to wear that match your personality and exude confidence wherever you go. That should get you started on the right foot with a few or more women checking you out here and there.

“Give a Firm Handshake.” When meeting any woman for the first time, don’t skip the formalities. A firm handshake always works on your good side. Not only does it start a friendly connection but it is an excellent way to break the ice. Body language experts have studied the gesture and research have proven time and again that a handshake indeed makes a difference during social interaction. Remember though that it should be firm not weak, loose or unintentional. Going without it, on one hand, would mean that it will take longer for a woman to be comfortable with your presence or company.

“Eye Contact is Key.” While a firm handshake is a good ice breaker, eye contact will keep the interaction going to the right direction. Of course, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take your eyes off her. You just need to maintain at least 80% of eye contact when you’re speaking with any woman (or any person for that matter) to let them know that you’re truly interested. If the woman sees and feel that you’re real and sincere, you just made a lasting good first impression. Learn how to talk to girls using this guide.

“Charm Her with a Smile.” If you think you’re shy and too nervous to meet women, you’re not alone. Majority of the male species experiences this problem too. But you have something that if used well can be a game changer. Smile at her regardless of how uncomfortable you are. Just the act of smiling give your confidence a boost and the gesture can disarm even the most snobbish women out there.

“Be a Gentleman.” Of course, nothing beats the old fashion way to win women. One of the best and proven ways to impress a woman is to act gentlemanly at all times. Grab every opportunity when you can show off this time tested trait. Whether it’s opening the door, pulling out a chair or getting her drinks, put your best foot forward. Prove to her that there are still men like you who are man enough to show your soft side by being a gentleman at all times.

Impressing a woman you met for the first time is not rocket science. You don’t need a masters or a doctorate in order to socially connect with the opposite sex. The simple techniques above have been proven, tested and researched on. All you need to do is use them and you’ll see that making a good first impression on a woman (or any other person) is not that hard after all.  Also see this related article by Forbes. :)

Good luck!

Rich (follow me on Twitter)

Posted on 9th October 2013 in Dating Tips, Enrique's Dating Advice  •  Comments are off for this post